The Grey Zone
Goals also prevent us from entering what neuro-linguistic programming practitioner (more on NLP later) Lindsey Agness calls in Change Your Life with NLP (2008) the “grey zone”. This is where most High-FFs spend their lives: not destitute, quite comfortable even, but stuck and tremendously frustrated. It is a settlement for second best that will eat away at your happiness daily unless you enter what she calls the “awful zone” where things become so bad action becomes essential.
I can remember almost wishing for the awful zone to come – some disastrous moment that cleared the slate and allowed me to start again. I used to call it my “virtual suicide”. With nothing to lose, I would surely lose my fear, I thought. Yet that day never ...
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