Trading on Target: How to Cultivate a Winner's State of Mind

HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH NEGATIVE FEELINGS?

Strategy #1

From the examples described above, ignoring and surpressing negative feelings does not produce good, long-term results. The following five steps are how many therapists or coaches train their clients to handle negative emotions:

1. Acknowledge that these feelings exist.

2. Notice where (specifically) you feel stresses and tensions in your body.

3. Transform (change) the submodalities (the details of the story that are driving the emotions.) For example in Andy’s case: “My father wants me to be successful.” Then, follow with a detailed story that involves the truth about this new story.

4. Transform the submodalities of the emotions themselves. For example: Notice what you feel and where you are feeling it and ask yourself to remember what it was like to have good feelings in those areas of your body.

5. Notice specifically how the sensations or the submodalities change or dissipate their intensity until the feeling is no longer a crippling issue.

Although this appears to be a simple process, most people find it difficult to accomplish without the assistance of a therapist or coach who is trained to facilitate this model.

Strategy #2

This second way of dealing with feelings is one that a trader can do on his own. Follow these five steps:

1. Acknowledge that the feeling exists.

2. Humanize that feeling and ask it this question: “What are you trying to tell me?”

3. If you get an answer, write it down. Study it. Now, make a commitment ...