Trading on Target: How to Cultivate a Winner's State of Mind

CHECKING OUT YOUR BELIEFS

If the process of letting go starts with your beliefs, can’t you simply add the right beliefs and just roll with the emotional punches instead of resisting? Well, yes and no. You need the right set of attitudes and ways of looking at the world that allow you to let go of bitterness, but adding them to your consciousness is not as simple as deciding it is better to forgive and go onward than to fight for justice and hold on to your righteous anger.

If you are holding on to a great deal of resentment in your life, you may have deeply held beliefs about life that come from early loss, betrayal, and wounding that never healed. These early and painful experiences often need professional counseling and therapy to heal. In this case, the only way to change your resentment-creating beliefs is to seek out help.

If your resentment response is not a chronic problem in your life that requires professional therapy, there are steps you can take on your own to make changes in your belief system. However, these steps require you to make a true commitment to change and will require you to do some hard inner work.

Step One

The first step is to take a tough and honest look at your current beliefs. A belief is any statement that you make that is true for you. A good way to do this is to write out your answers to the following questions as truthfully as you can. This list is only a starting place for you, and you can add your own statements about life to this list.

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