30Is Everyone a Narcissist Now?

The problem with labels is that they lead to stereotypes and stereotypes lead to generalizations and generalizations lead to assumptions and assumptions lead back to stereotypes.

—Ellen DeGeneres

I was in a very serious relationship a few years ago. I had worked really hard to become a priority in her life. We hit our stride for a few years, and life was great. Then we started having problems. Nothing big at first, just the usual little problems that creep up.

But the problems got bigger. Our paths started to diverge.

We started having ugly arguments. She would threaten to leave. I would threaten to leave. We entered this awkward “push–pull” period of trying to convince each other to stay and then pushing ...

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