RULE TO BREAK

“Guilt tells you where you’re going wrong”

Guilt is a bad emotion, trust me. No, no … don’t start feeling guilty about feeling guilty. I didn’t say you were bad. I said guilt was a bad thing. Some people are overrun with it, almost always because of their upbringing: their religion, their parents, their teachers, some trauma in their past. And I appreciate that it’s a very, very hard habit to shake. There’s a comfort in it that, like any addiction, makes it hard to give up. But give it up you must, even if it takes you most of your life to do it.

I had a relative when I was younger who used to feel guilty about everything. She felt so guilty she had to talk to her friends for hours about what to do about it. None of which was any ...

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