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The Rules to Break, 3rd Edition

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A personal code for living your life your way.
 
From a very young age you’ve been inundated with other people’s well-intended rules. Whether from teachers, friends or parents, these helpful principles and bits of gracious advice are supposed to help you get on in life. The trouble is, many of these rules aren’t true (at least not all the time) and yet they have a major influence on your life whether you realise it or not.
 
How do you sort the gold dust from the sawdust?
 
In The Rules to Break, international bestselling author Richard Templar exposes the most common phoney rules, explains what’s wrong with them and then offers a refreshing alternative and a new way of thinking. Above all, he’ll help you master the ability to truly think for yourself, so than you can follow a path that you’ve chosen, rather than blindly following someone else’s.
 
It’s your life. Why not live it your way?

Table of Contents

  1. Cover
  2. Title page
  3. Contents
  4. Introduction
  5. Acknowledgements
  6. Rules to break
    1. 1 “Success is a good job earning lots of money”
    2. Rule 1: Success is what you say it is
    3. 2 “Some people are just born lucky”
    4. Rule 2: Don’t envy other people
    5. 3 “You need the right qualifications”
    6. Rule 3: Exams aren’t the be all and end all
    7. 4 “Your parents are always right”
    8. Rule 4: Don’t expect your parents to be perfect
    9. 5 “Your parents are responsible for how you turn out”
    10. Rule 5: Give your parents a break
    11. 6 “The world is against you”
    12. Rule 6: You’re responsible for your own life
    13. 7 “We all have an absolute right to be respected”
    14. Rule 7: There’s a balance between the right to respect, and tolerance
    15. 8 “You can choose your friends but you can’t choose your family”
    16. Rule 8: Your siblings should be your best friends for life
    17. 9 “Teacher knows best”
    18. Rule 9: Getting on at school is not the same as getting on in life
    19. 10 “Have something to say for yourself”
    20. Rule 10: If you find it hard to talk, try listening
    21. 11 “Some people are just difficult”
    22. Rule 11: No one chooses to be difficult without a reason
    23. 12 “Don’t waste your time on people who aren’t worth it”
    24. Rule 12: Suffer fools gladly. Well, suffer them, anyway
    25. 13 “You can’t be cheerful if you’re in pain”
    26. Rule 13: Pain doesn’t have to make you miserable
    27. 14 “Good work speaks for itself”
    28. Rule 14: No one at work will know how good you are unless you tell them
    29. 15 “Do what it takes to get what you want”
    30. Rule 15: Don’t emotionally blackmail people
    31. 16 “A place for everything, and everything in its place”
    32. Rule 16: It’s not morally superior to be tidy
    33. 17 “It matters what other people think”
    34. Rule 17: Don’t live for other people’s approval
    35. 18 “Give as good as you get”
    36. Rule 18: You get what you give
    37. 19 “Stick with your own kind”
    38. Rule 19: Your friends don’t all need to be like you
    39. 20 “The best things in life are free”
    40. Rule 20: Everything worth having hurts
    41. 21 “You can change people”
    42. Rule 21: Don’t try to change people
    43. 22 “It’s where you’re going that matters, not where you came from”
    44. Rule 22: Be proud of your roots
    45. 23 “Friends are for life”
    46. Rule 23: Friends come and go
    47. 24 “Mistakes are a bad thing”
    48. Rule 24: Mistakes can be good
    49. 25 “Be a friend to everybody”
    50. Rule 25: You don’t have to like everyone
    51. 26 “… and everybody will be your friend”
    52. Rule 26: … and not everyone will like you
    53. 27 “If you don’t like it, tough”
    54. Rule 27: Remember, you have a choice
    55. 28 “You need to get your chores over with”
    56. Rule 28: Life’s all about the little things
    57. 29 “Stay true to your dreams”
    58. Rule 29: Priorities change over the years
    59. 30 “People have a right to know”
    60. Rule 30: Know how to keep a secret
    61. 31 “Face your fears”
    62. Rule 31: Replace the bad thoughts
    63. 32 “Make a New Year’s resolution every year”
    64. Rule 32: You can’t change habits unless you want to
    65. 33 “Respect the elderly”
    66. Rule 33: Respect everyone
    67. 34 “Look after number one”
    68. Rule 34: Helping other people makes you feel good about yourself
    69. 35 “If you’re in the firing line, keep your head down”
    70. Rule 35: They can’t walk all over you unless you’re lying down
    71. 36 “Just ignore the bullies”
    72. Rule 36: Don’t let ’em bully you
    73. 37 “Think on your feet”
    74. Rule 37: Be in control
    75. 38 “What you do is more important than why you do it”
    76. Rule 38: Be honest with yourself
    77. 39 “You can judge a book by its cover”
    78. Rule 39: Everyone has a backstory
    79. 40 “Put the past behind you”
    80. Rule 40: You have to deal with your stuff before you can get on with your life
    81. 41 “What about me?”
    82. Rule 41: It’s not all about you
    83. 42 “Just once won’t hurt”
    84. Rule 42: Don’t let bad habits get a foot in the door
    85. 43 “Be spontaneous”
    86. Rule 43: Listen to the voices in your head
    87. 44 “Take one step at a time”
    88. Rule 44: If you want big things to change, you have to make big changes
    89. 45 “The best people will be there for you for life”
    90. Rule 45: People come and go, and it’s OK
    91. 46 “Enjoy yourself while you’re young”
    92. Rule 46: Your body is for life
    93. 47 “Borrowing is OK so long as you can pay it back”
    94. Rule 47: Don’t get into debt
    95. 48 “Be generous”
    96. Rule 48: Never lend money unless you’re prepared to write it off
    97. 49 “Believe you’re the best”
    98. Rule 49: Know your real worth
    99. 50 “Don’t allow people to make you feel bad”
    100. Rule 50: The only thing you can control is you
    101. 51 “Some people just get to you”
    102. Rule 51: No one can make you feel anything
    103. 52 “You can’t help how you feel”
    104. Rule 52: You feel what you think
    105. 53 “Actions speak louder than words”
    106. Rule 53: Don’t take anyone for granted
    107. 54 “Avoid unnecessary displays of emotion”
    108. Rule 54: Say thank you out loud
    109. 55 “The internet makes you anonymous”
    110. Rule 55: The Rules don’t stop online
    111. 56 “Always seek to improve yourself”
    112. Rule 56: Accept your shortcomings
    113. 57 “Strive for perfection”
    114. Rule 57: Perfection can be a handicap
    115. 58 “You are the product of your genes”
    116. Rule 58: You are the sum of your experiences (so make them good)
    117. 59 “Tomorrow is another day”
    118. Rule 59: How you spend your day is how you spend your life
    119. 60 “There aren’t enough hours in the day”
    120. Rule 60: Know your limitations
    121. 61 “Always get off on the right foot from the start”
    122. Rule 61: Bide your time to make a good impression
    123. 62 “Confident people know where they’re going”
    124. Rule 62: Everyone else is as lost as you
    125. 63 “Stand out from the crowd”
    126. Rule 63: There’s a fine line between being ubercool and being a total prat
    127. 64 “Appearances matter”
    128. Rule 64: Be happy with the way you look
    129. 65 “It’s just a drop in the ocean”
    130. Rule 65: The insignificant is important
    131. 66 “The job comes first”
    132. Rule 66: Don’t mistake your career for your life
    133. 67 “Get it all out in the open”
    134. Rule 67: Avoid conflict
    135. 68 “If you know you’re in the right, don’t back down”
    136. Rule 68: Don’t be afraid of compromise
    137. 69 “Some people are just asking for it”
    138. Rule 69: Keep the moral high ground
    139. 70 “It’s good to let your feelings out”
    140. Rule 70: Don’t trample on other people’s emotions
    141. 71 “No one is perfect”
    142. Rule 71: Be on the side of the angels, not the beasts
    143. 72 “Meet your deadlines”
    144. Rule 72: Keep ahead of deadlines
    145. 73 “Give good advice”
    146. Rule 73: Don’t give advice
    147. 74 “Let people know when you’re right”
    148. Rule 74: Never say ‘I told you so’
    149. 75 “Stick to what you’re good at”
    150. Rule 75: Stretch yourself
    151. 76 “You’ve a right to be treated fairly”
    152. Rule 76: Stop expecting life to be fair
    153. 77 “The more you learn about a subject, the more of an expert you become”
    154. Rule 77: The more you know, the more you don’t
    155. 78 “You can’t learn anything from a fool”
    156. Rule 78: Learn from other people’s mistakes
    157. 79 “If you’re going to do something, do it properly”
    158. Rule 79: You don’t have to jump in the deep end
    159. 80 “Stick with what you know”
    160. Rule 80: Step out of your comfort zone
    161. 81 “People will judge you by what you own”
    162. Rule 81: Don’t try to keep up with the Joneses
    163. 82 “Hide your mistakes”
    164. Rule 82: Remember, you could be wrong – someone has to be
    165. 83 “Live in the present”
    166. Rule 83: Keep perspective
    167. 84 “Know what you want”
    168. Rule 84: You don’t have to know what you want
    169. 85 “Guilt tells you where you’re going wrong”
    170. Rule 85: Don’t do guilt
    171. 86 “Someone will make it better”
    172. Rule 86: Pick yourself up (no one else will do it for you)
    173. 87 “Think through your problems”
    174. Rule 87: Thinking hard doesn’t always help
    175. 88 “Narrow down your options”
    176. Rule 88: Look at all the options
    177. 89 “Stick to a plan”
    178. Rule 89: Life is unpredictable
    179. 90 “Trust no one”
    180. Rule 90: Trust everyone
    181. 91 “Trust everyone”
    182. Rule 91: Trust no one
    183. 92 “Sometimes you need a good moan”
    184. Rule 92: There are people who moan, and people who just get on with it
    185. 93 “Don’t sacrifice yourself for a relationship”
    186. Rule 93: It’s the compromises that make relationships worth having
    187. 94 “Feelings should be rational”
    188. Rule 94: Feelings aren’t right or wrong – they just are
    189. 95 “Eat, drink and be merry …”
    190. Rule 95: Stay alive
    191. 96 “I want doesn’t get”
    192. Rule 96: Ask for what you want
    193. 97 “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it”
    194. Rule 97: Look up
    195. 98 “Find yourself a safe job”
    196. Rule 98: Follow your passion
    197. 99 “Protect your property”
    198. Rule 99: People are more important than things
    199. 100 “You can’t change horses in midstream”
    200. Rule 100: It’s never too late to start following the real Rules
  7. Rules to follow
    1. 1 No man is an island
    2. 2 Two wrongs don’t make a right
    3. 3 When in Rome, do as the Romans
    4. 4 Don’t judge a book by its cover
    5. 5 For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction
    6. 6 There’s no such thing as a free lunch
    7. 7 Do as you would be done by
    8. 8 The pen is mightier than the sword
    9. 9 Keep dry, and away from children
    10. 10 Give it time
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