RULE TO BREAK
“You can’t help how you feel”
Once again this is a natural follow-on from the last Rule. There are some feelings that you can most certainly help, as we’ve just seen. But quite apart from what other people ‘make’ you feel – or don’t – there’s a broader principle here.
We all talk to ourselves more than we probably realise. It’s not a sign of madness, it’s just how people are. Try monitoring your internal conversations for a few days, and listen out objectively for the tone of voice you use.
Some people have conciliatory, forgiving inner voices: ‘Never mind, you can’t do everything’, or ‘You may not have found time to call mum, but you managed everything else on today’s list’. Others have little slave-drivers in their heads: ‘You ...
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