RULE TO BREAK
“You can change people”
It’s astounding how many people believe this – maybe because they really want to. It’s very tempting to find someone who is 95 per cent of the way to being the partner you want, and then trying to tweak the last 5 per cent into place. If only they were just a bit tougher, or a little bit less flighty, or more tolerant, or less of a spendthrift, or a bit more of a risk-taker. Wouldn’t that be perfect?
Now look at it the other way around. Suppose you meet someone who thinks you’re almost perfect, but who sets out to turn you into their perfect man or woman. They’d prefer you a bit tougher, or a little bit less flighty, or more tolerant… How do you feel about that? And do you think it would be possible to ...
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