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The Rules to Break, 2nd Edition

Book Description

A personal code for living your life your way.

 

From a very young age you've been inundated with other people's well-intended rules. Whether from teachers, friends or parents, these helpful principles and bits of gracious advice are supposed to help you get on in life. The trouble is, many of these rules aren't true (at least not all the time) and yet they have a major influence on your life whether you realise it or not.

 

How do you sort the gold dust from the sawdust?

 

In The Rules to Break, international bestselling author Richard Templar exposes the most common phoney rules, explains what's wrong with them and then offers a refreshing alternative and a new way of thinking. Above all, he'll help you master the ability to truly think for yourself, so than you can follow a path that you've chosen, rather than blindly following someone else's.

 

It's your life. Why not live it your way?

Table of Contents

  1. Cover
  2. Title page
  3. Contents
  4. Introduction
  5. Author’s acknowledgements
  6. Publisher’s acknowledgements
  7. 1. “Success is a good job earning lots of money” - Rule 1: Success is what you say it is
  8. 2. “Some people are just born lucky” - Rule 2: Don’t envy other people
  9. 3. “You need the right qualifications” - Rule 3: Exams aren’t the be all and end all
  10. 4. “Your parents are always right” - Rule 4: Don’t expect your parents to be perfect
  11. 5. “Your parents are responsible for how you turn out” - Rule 5: Give your parents a break
  12. 6. “The world is against you” - Rule 6: You’re responsible for your own life
  13. 7. “We all have an absolute right to be respected” - Rule 7: There’s a balance between the right to respect, and tolerance
  14. 8. “You can choose your friends but you can’t choose your family” - Rule 8: Your siblings should be your best friends for life
  15. 9. “Teacher knows best” - Rule 9: Getting on at school is not the same as getting on in life
  16. 10. “Have something to say for yourself” - Rule 10: If you find it hard to talk, try listening
  17. 11. “Some people are just difficult” - Rule 11: No one chooses to be difficult without a reason
  18. 12. “Don’t waste your time on people who aren’t worth it” - Rule 12: Suffer fools gladly. Well, suffer them, anyway
  19. 13. “You can’t be cheerful if you’re in pain” - Rule 13: Pain doesn’t have to make you miserable
  20. 14. “Good work speaks for itself” - Rule 14: No one at work will know how good you are unless you tell them
  21. 15. “Do what it takes to get what you want” - Rule 15: Don’t emotionally blackmail people
  22. 16. “A place for everything, and everything in its place” - Rule 16: It’s not morally superior to be tidy
  23. 17. “It matters what other people think” - Rule 17: Don’t live for other people’s approval
  24. 18. “Give as good as you get” - Rule 18: You get what you give
  25. 19. “Stick with your own kind” - Rule 19: Your friends don’t all need to be like you
  26. 20. “The best things in life are free” - Rule 20: Everything worth having hurts
  27. 21. “You can change people” - Rule 21: Don’t try to change people
  28. 22. “It’s where you’re going that matters, not where you came from” - Rule 22: Be proud of your roots
  29. 23. “Friends are for life” - Rule 23: Friends come and go
  30. 24. “Mistakes are a bad thing” - Rule 24: Mistakes can be good
  31. 25. “Be a friend to everybody” - Rule 25: You don’t have to like everyone
  32. 26. “…and everybody will be your friend” - Rule 26: …and not everyone will like you
  33. 27. “If you don’t like it, tough” - Rule 27: Remember you have a choice
  34. 28. “You need to get your chores over with” - Rule 28: Life’s all about the little things
  35. 29. “Stay true to your dreams” - Rule 29: Priorities change over the years
  36. 30. “People have a right to know” - Rule 30: Know how to keep a secret
  37. 31. “Face your fears” - Rule 31: Replace the bad thoughts
  38. 32. “Make a New Year’s resolution every year” - Rule 32: You can’t change habits unless you want to
  39. 33. “Respect the elderly” - Rule 33: Respect everyone
  40. 34. “Look after number one” - Rule 34: Helping other people makes you feel good about yourself
  41. 35. “If you’re in the firing line, keep your head down” - Rule 35: They can’t walk all over you unless you’re lying down
  42. 36. “Just ignore the bullies” - Rule 36: Don’t let ’em bully you
  43. 37. “Think on your feet” - Rule 37: Be in control
  44. 38. “What you do is more important than why you do it” - Rule 38: Be honest with yourself
  45. 39. “You can judge a book by its cover” - Rule 39: Everyone has a backstory
  46. 40. “Put the past behind you” - Rule 40: You have to deal with your stuff before you can get on with your life
  47. 41. “What about me?” - Rule 41: It’s not all about you
  48. 42. “Just once won’t hurt” - Rule 42: Don’t let bad habits get a foot in the door
  49. 43. “Be spontaneous” - Rule 43: Listen to the voices in your head
  50. 44. “Take one step at a time” - Rule 44: If you want big things to change, you have to make big changes
  51. 45. “The best people will be there for you for life” - Rule 45: People come and go, and it’s OK
  52. 46. “Enjoy yourself while you’re young” - Rule 46: Your body is for life
  53. 47. “Borrowing is OK so long as you can pay it back” - Rule 47: Don’t get into debt
  54. 48. “Be generous” - Rule 48: Never lend money unless you’re prepared to write it off
  55. 49. “Believe you’re the best” - Rule 49: Know your real worth
  56. 50. “Don’t allow people to make you feel bad” - Rule 50: The only thing you can control is you
  57. 51. “Some people just get to you” - Rule 51: No one can make you feel anything
  58. 52. “You can’t help how you feel” - Rule 52: You feel what you think
  59. 53. “Actions speak louder than words” - Rule 53: Don’t take anyone for granted
  60. 54. “Avoid unnecessary displays of emotion” - Rule 54: Say thank you out loud
  61. 55. “The Internet makes you anonymous” - Rule 55: The Rules don’t stop online
  62. 56. “Always seek to improve yourself” - Rule 56: Accept your shortcomings
  63. 57. “Strive for perfection” - Rule 57: Perfection can be a handicap
  64. 58. “You are the product of your genes” - Rule 58: You are the sum of your experiences (so make them good)
  65. 59. “Tomorrow is another day” - Rule 59: How you spend your day is how you spend your life
  66. 60. “There aren’t enough hours in the day” - Rule 60: Know your limitations
  67. 61. “Always get off on the right foot from the start” - Rule 61: Bide your time to make a good impression
  68. 62. “Confident people know where they’re going” - Rule 62: Everyone else is as lost as you
  69. 63. “Stand out from the crowd” - Rule 63: There’s a fine line between being ubercool and being a total prat
  70. 64. “Appearances matter” - Rule 64: Be happy with the way you look
  71. 65. “It’s just a drop in the ocean” - Rule 65: The insignificant is important
  72. 66. “The job comes first” - Rule 66: Don’t mistake your career for your life
  73. 67. “Get it all out in the open” - Rule 67: Avoid conflict
  74. 68. “If you know you’re in the right, don’t back down” - Rule 68: Don’t be afraid of compromise
  75. 69. “Give as good as you get” - Rule 69: Keep the moral high ground
  76. 70. “It’s good to let your feelings out” - Rule 70: Don’t trample on other people’s emotions
  77. 71. “No one is perfect” - Rule 71: Be on the side of the angels, not the beasts
  78. 72. “Meet your deadlines” - Rule 72: Keep ahead of deadlines
  79. 73. “Give good advice” - Rule 73: Don’t give advice
  80. 74. “Let people know when you’re right” - Rule 74: Never say ‘I told you so’
  81. 75. “Stick to what you’re good at” - Rule 75: Stretch yourself
  82. 76. “You’ve a right to be treated fairly” - Rule 76: Stop expecting life to be fair
  83. 77. “The more you learn about a subject, the more of an expert you become” - Rule 77: The more you know, the more you don’t
  84. 78. “You can’t learn anything from a fool” - Rule 78: Learn from other people’s mistakes
  85. 79. “If you’re going to do something, do it properly” - Rule 79: You don’t have to jump in the deep end
  86. 80. “Stick with what you know” - Rule 80: Step out of your comfort zone
  87. 81. “People will judge you by what you own” - Rule 81: Don’t try to keep up with the Joneses
  88. 82. “Hide your mistakes” - Rule 82: Remember you could be wrong – someone has to be
  89. 83. “Live in the present” - Rule 83: Keep perspective
  90. 84. “Know what you want” - Rule 84: You don’t have to know what you want
  91. 85. “Guilt tells you where you’re going wrong” - Rule 85: Don’t do guilt
  92. 86. “Someone will make it better” - Rule 86: Pick yourself up (no one else will do it for you)
  93. 87. “Think through your problems” - Rule 87: Thinking hard doesn’t always help
  94. 88. “Narrow down your options” - Rule 88: Look at all the options
  95. 89. “Stick to a plan” - Rule 89: Life is unpredictable
  96. 90. “Trust no one” - Rule 90: Trust everyone
  97. 91. “Trust everyone” - Rule 91: Trust no one
  98. 92. “Sometimes you need a good moan” - Rule 92: There are people who moan, and people who just get on with it
  99. 93. “Don’t sacrifice yourself for a relationship” - Rule 93: It’s the compromises that make relationships worth having
  100. 94. “Feelings should be rational” - Rule 94: Feelings aren’t right or wrong – they just are
  101. 95. “Eat, drink and be merry…” - Rule 95: Stay alive
  102. 96. “I want doesn’t get” - Rule 96: Ask for what you want
  103. 97. “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it” - Rule 97: Look up
  104. 98. “Find yourself a safe job” - Rule 98: Follow your passion
  105. 99. “Protect your property” - Rule 99: People are more important than things
  106. 100. “You can’t change horses in midstream” - Rule 100: It’s never too late to start following the real Rules
  107. Imprint