RULE 91

Only have people in your life who, on balance, make it better not worse

The great thing about friends is that they’re not compulsory. You don’t have to stay with them unless you want to. Hopefully you’ll have plenty of really good, reliable friends who make you feel good about yourself. But if there are people around you who don’t do this, you don’t have to go on seeing them you know.

Let’s be clear about this. You deserve to have friends around you who make you feel good, support you when you’re going through rough times, and want you to be happy. Anyone who doesn’t fit those criteria isn’t in fact a friend at all, even if you call them one.

I know this isn’t always easy. What about that friend who sometimes puts you down, but really ...

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