RULE 59

Don’t be offended if they want some space

We’re all sociable creatures to some degree, but not all to the same degree. Some of us just like to spend time together, while others like to live in their partner’s pocket. The odds are slim that you and your partner will have exactly the same instincts on this one.

There will be times when your partner wants to disappear and go shopping, or play with their model railway, or dig in the garden, or read a book, or organize their stamp collection, or go surfing. It doesn’t mean they don’t want to be with you. It simply means that they want to be alone. Some people need that space and if you deny them it, they’ll start to feel trapped.

Maybe your partner needs space routinely, or maybe they only ...

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