RULE 46

Jealousy is your stuff, not theirs

I’d just like to say before we get beyond the title of this Rule, that I’m not talking about instances where you know for a fact that your partner is cheating on you. In that case jealousy is understandable and justified. What this Rule is about is feeling jealous every time your partner is away from home, out on their own, late back from work and so on. Maybe you’ve even been tempted to go through their emails or sneak a look at the calls on their mobile phone. (What? You’ve already done it? Tish.)

Jealousy is one of the most corrosive things in a relationship. I’ve seen it destroy otherwise excellent partnerships. When the partner who is the object of such suspicion is in fact innocent, they feel ...

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