RULE 50
Learn to appreciate the qualities that remind you of someone else
When my daughter was younger, she reminded me of both her grandmothers. Now, I don’t want to get personal in any way, but given a choice that’s not who I’d have chosen to create (not both rolled into one, anyway). As she got older – well, she reminded me even more of her grandmothers. Of course she had some of their good points, but I didn’t really notice that. It was the bad points that kept throwing themselves in front of me.
The thing is, though, she was my daughter. And I loved her unconditionally. So I learnt to love those qualities in her that had, at first, been hard to take. It’s not easy to do, but it has to be done because you can’t blame your kids for their ...
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