RULE 15

Look pleased to see them

Now here’s something that really gets my goat. I can’t count the number of parents I’ve seen do this. Their child comes in from school or an afternoon out, and as they walk through the door they’re greeted with, ‘Take those muddy shoes off!’ Or, ‘Homework, now! Before you do anything else.’

I have a friend who once came home from school in the middle of the day with a huge bump on her head, after a fall in the gym. This was in the days when you were allowed to go home on your own after something like that happened. Her mum was busy mopping the kitchen floor as my friend appeared in the doorway. The mum looked up with wrinkled brow and said, ‘You can’t come in. The floor’s wet.’

How are these children supposed ...

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