RULE 1

Listen to your own internal voice

When people look back on relationships that didn’t work out, how often do you hear them say, ‘You know, deep down I knew it was over when she forgot our fifth wedding anniversary’, or ‘Looking back, when he took that job even though I begged him not to, that was the beginning of the end’?

But those people who tell you exactly when the rot set in probably carried on flogging the dead horse of their relationship for months or even years after that point. Kept on plugging away at a doomed relationship, digging a deeper and deeper hole, together with their partner, for them both to have to climb out of eventually. If only they’d had foresight at the time, instead of saving it all for hindsight later on.

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