RULE 63

Contentment is a high aim

You know that feeling you get when you first fall in love? Weak at the knees, stomach churning, can’t think about anything else? It’s great, isn’t it? On the other hand, it puts you on an emotional knife-edge that makes almost everything else, from work to eating, really quite difficult.

Some people get addicted to it. They just don’t feel alive unless they’re ‘in love’. But of course relationships don’t stay like that. Sooner or later you become confident and sure enough of your partner not to worry or fret, and you get used to having them around so you don’t jump at the sound of the phone. So if you’re addicted to falling ‘in love’, you’ll have to keep ditching your partners and finding new people to fall ...

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