RULE 46

Let them know if you don’t like their friends

It would be great if we could like all our partner’s friends as much as they do. And a lot of us are lucky and get on well with most of them. But there are generally at least a couple – and sometimes more – that we just don’t enjoy being around. Maybe they’re just crass, or boring, or airheads (at least in your opinion) – or perhaps you think they’re a bad influence on your partner.

The question is, what are you gonna do about it? And the answer is that there’s not a lot you can do. It’s OK to let your partner know that you don’t particularly want to spend time with certain of their friends. I didn’t say it was OK to give them a hard time about it mind you, just to let them know. You can ...

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