RULE 45

Don’t dump responsibility on your partner

Sometimes in life we mess up. And sometimes when that happens, what we really, really want is a scapegoat. And who better than our partner? After all, they’re right there. They’re the obvious person to blame. All you have to do is round on them and say, ‘Why on earth didn’t you pack the camera?’ There. That feels better. Just dump all the responsibility on them.

Hello . . .? Just because you’re in a relationship, it doesn’t stop you being an independent person capable of packing a camera – or at least checking before you leave home that someone else has packed it. If you were still single, you’d have packed the thing, or kicked yourself for forgetting. Well, just because you have a partner it ...

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