RULE 33
Be the first to say sorry
Grown-ups don’t have rows. Sure, they argue, they disagree, they debate. They express their feelings and say when they’re hurt or angry or upset. But they don’t have the kinds of rows that require an apology to get over them.
Oh, alright then, we do. But that doesn’t make it right. From time to time we forget to do the ‘When you say . . . I feel . . .’ thing we all know we should, and we behave childishly instead. Don’t worry, we all do it. I expect they started it anyway.
The big question is, having fallen out with the person we love, which isn’t what we wanted to do of course, what are we going to do about it? And the answer – as you may have guessed from the title of this Rule – is to say sorry. And to say ...
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