RULE 18
Create the power balance you both want
A good relationship is an equal one. Of course you each have strengths, and there are moments when one of you takes care of the other, and other moments when those roles are reversed.
In some relationships, however, the balance of power isn’t equal, for some reason. Sometimes one partner is very controlling, but often it’s more subtle than that. Maybe one of you likes to be looked after and the other happily assumes the protective role. Or one of you is usually irresponsible and the other acts as a kind of substitute parent.
The thing about all these imbalances is that they are almost always set up very early on in the relationship, so this is the time to be on your guard. It’s well-nigh impossible ...
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