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The Rules of Love, 3rd Edition

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Over 70,000 copies sold - the brand new edition of the bestselling guide to better relationships.

Table of Contents

  1. Cover
  2. Title page
  3. Dedication
  4. Contents
  5. Introduction
  6. Rules for finding love
    1. 1 Be yourself
    2. 2 Get over it before you get on with it
    3. 3 You won’t be happy with a partner until you can be happy on your own
    4. 4 You’ll know them when you meet them
    5. 5 Choose someone who makes you laugh
    6. 6 Being less than a hundred per cent attractive is a great filter
    7. 7 Don’t keep making the same mistakes
    8. 8 Certain people are off limits (you know who they are)
    9. 9 You can’t change people
    10. 10 Relationships aren’t about sex
    11. 11 Get to know someone through all the seasons before making any major decisions
    12. 12 Don’t stay with someone who doesn’t care
    13. 13 If you can’t trust them, you haven’t got a relationship
    14. 14 Be honest (while you still have the chance)
    15. 15 Don’t play games
    16. 16 Don’t tar new partners with old brushes
    17. 17 Check you both have the same shared goals
    18. 18 Create the power balance you both want
    19. 19 You can’t make someone love you
    20. 20 Be cruel to be kind
  7. Relationship Rules
    1. 21 Be nice
    2. 22 Be together because you want to, not because you need to
    3. 23 Allow your partner the space to be themselves
    4. 24 Look to your own faults
    5. 25 Be honourable
    6. 26 Put each other first
    7. 27 Recognize the signs
    8. 28 Be a hero – or a heroine
    9. 29 Accept the differences, embrace what you have in common
    10. 30 Don’t belittle your partner
    11. 31 You want to do what?
    12. 32 Let not the sun go down upon your wrath
    13. 33 Be the first to say sorry
    14. 34 Let them have the last word
    15. 35 Houston, we have a problem
    16. 36 Don’t put them on a pedestal and expect them to stay there
    17. 37 Know when to listen and when to act
    18. 38 Never stop trying to be attractive
    19. 39 If you can say something nice, do
    20. 40 Don’t try to be their parent
    21. 41 Be part of their life
    22. 42 If little things annoy you, say so – with humour
    23. 43 Go that extra step in trying to please them
    24. 44 Make sure your partner is always pleased to see you
    25. 45 Don’t dump responsibility on your partner
    26. 46 Let them know if you don’t like their friends
    27. 47 Jealousy is your stuff, not theirs
    28. 48 Your partner is more important than your kids
    29. 49 Make time for romance
    30. 50 Have a passion for your life together
    31. 51 Share the workload
    32. 52 Trust the other one to do the job
    33. 53 Don’t be a nag
    34. 54 Make sure your love making is making love
    35. 55 Don’t control them
    36. 56 Listen to what they’re not saying
    37. 57 Most everyday arguments are about something else
    38. 58 Respect privacy
    39. 59 Treat your partner better than your best friend
    40. 60 Don’t be offended if they want some space
    41. 61 Men like flowers too
    42. 62 Keep your finances separate
    43. 63 Contentment is a high aim
    44. 64 Be generous to each other financially
    45. 65 You make a choice every day
    46. 66 Don’t be a martyr
    47. 67 Stop sniping – someone has to
    48. 68 You don’t both have to have the same rules
    49. 69 Do it their way if it matters more to them
    50. 70 Put yourself in their shoes
    51. 71 In-laws are part of the package
    52. 72 Keep talking
  8. Family Rules
    1. 73 Don’t blame your parents
    2. 74 Don’t let your parents control your feelings
    3. 75 Your children come before you
    4. 76 Nothing is worth falling out over
    5. 77 Don’t shout at the people you love
    6. 78 Treat them right, no matter how they treat you
    7. 79 There are no circumstances in which it is ever acceptable to say ‘I told you so’
    8. 80 Don’t pressurize your family just because you can
    9. 81 Never be too busy for loved ones
    10. 82 Make the effort
    11. 83 Your children need to fall out with you to leave home
    12. 84 They don’t have to be the same as you
    13. 85 Accept people’s flaws
    14. 86 There’s always stuff with siblings
    15. 87 Let go of your role
    16. 88 What will be left of you?
  9. Friendship Rules
    1. 89 There are no rules
    2. 90 Your best friend was once a stranger
    3. 91 Only have people in your life who, on balance, make it better not worse
    4. 92 If you’re going to be a friend, be a good friend
    5. 93 Forgive
    6. 94 Never give advice
    7. 95 Don’t make other people uncomfortable
    8. 96 Find friends who love the truth
    9. 97 Never lend money unless you’re prepared to write it off
    10. 98 If you don’t like their partner, tough
    11. 99 When one finger points forwards, three point back
    12. 100 Friendships change
    13. 101 Know when to let go
    14. 102 Bitterness helps no one
  10. Rules for everyone
    1. 103 People are more important than things
    2. 104 Guilt is a selfish emotion
    3. 105 Love equals time
    4. 106 The more you put out, the more you get back
    5. 107 Other people are where it’s at
  11. The Rules of parting
    1. 1 Listen to your own internal voice
    2. 2 Recognize that it takes two
    3. 3 It doesn’t have to be anyone’s fault
    4. 4 Keep the moral high ground
    5. 5 Don’t keep raking it over
    6. 6 Leave the kids out of it
    7. 7 Remember they’re not a monster
    8. 8 Identify your own mistakes
    9. 9 Choose friends you can trust
    10. 10 There is life beyond parting
  12. Had enough yet . . .?
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