CHAPTER 13

You can have it all

“Choice, not chance, determines our destiny.” JEAN NIDETCH

The ideas, tools and techniques we’ve discussed in this book can together give us the autonomy and the power to choose our lives and our experience of life.

Having the power to choose, or the power of ‘self-determination’, means no longer seeing ourselves as victims of our circumstances or of other people’s actions. Thoughts such as ‘they did it to me’ or ‘life did it to me’ leave us with a sense of injustice and powerlessness.

Whether we’re bemoaning our ill health or fuming over other people’s unreasonableness or incompetence, victim thinking takes away our power and leaves us feeling not in control of our lives.

All dissatisfaction involves, to ...

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