CHAPTER 6

We are who we are

“The snow goose need not bathe to make itself white. Neither need you do anything but be yourself.” LAO TSE

Most of us could probably think of at least one aspect of ourselves we’d like to change if we could. We might prefer to be taller or shorter, thinner or fatter, younger, better-looking, more confident, happier, healthier, wealthier, more energetic, more knowledgeable, more capable, or more anything else.

While some of these things cannot be changed, most can, at least to some degree. But even changing these aspects of ourselves takes time. So there’s little, if anything, we can change at this moment.

In this area, as in all others, accepting the things we cannot change doesn’t just mean accepting the unchangeables ...

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