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The Outside Edge: How Outsiders Can Succeed in a World Made by Insiders

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The brand new book from the international bestselling self-help author

Robert Kelsey's internationally bestselling self-help books have helped tens of thousands of people overcome fear of failure and under confidence. Now Robert is back and is here to debunk the ever pervasive myths around the trail-blazing rebel outsider...

Our culture celebrates outsiders while - in reality - slamming the door in their face. The modern world craves innovation while alienating original thinkers. It encourages creativity while shutting-out all but a privileged few from individualistic expression. What a waste!

Yet achieving great things as a genuine outsider is possible. Outsiders can find their own way - succeeding without compromising their individuality. They just need to forge an edge.

The Outside Edge is all about learning to harness the unique vantage point you possess in order to give yourself the edge required to succeed. It will show you when to embrace your outsider status and go against convention, and when to play the game, do as the insiders do and make sure you can get progress. Think of The Outside Edge as a manual for positively directing your insecurity, awkwardness and role-confusion - towards a meaningful future, shaped and pursued on your own terms.

By getting The Outside Edge you can:

  • Identity and understand the causes of feeling like an "outsider"

  • Accept yourself while focusing on "finding meaning" for your life

  • Motivate yourself using strong goals, often harnessing creativity

  • Acquire the skills needed to succeed on your own terms

  • Avoid pitfalls such as poor judgement, negativity and extremism.

  • Table of Contents

    1. Cover
    2. Series Page
    3. Title Page
    4. Copyright
    5. Dedication
    6. Introduction: Debunking The Outsider Myth
    7. Part One: The Making of an Outsider
      1. Chapter 1: The Misfits
        1. The Lost Tribe
        2. Divorced from Our Surroundings
        3. Are You An Outsider?
        4. Are We More Intelligent, or Less?
      2. Chapter 2: The Crisis of Identity
        1. The Rejected Changeling
        2. The Battles of Identity
        3. Role Confusion
        4. The Identity Journey
        5. The One in the ABC1 Demographic
        6. Highly-Structured Youth Movements
      3. Chapter 3: Adolescence, Family and Opportunity
        1. The Timing of Puberty
        2. The Disadvantaged Outsider
        3. The Impact of Self-Esteem
        4. Girls Change Friends, Boys Retreat
        5. Family Scripts
        6. The Dilemma of Choice
        7. Rousseau's Discourse of the Vanities
      4. Chapter 4: Existentialism and the Need For A Purpose
        1. Hegel's Contradictions
        2. Kierkegaard Adds A Moral Dimension
        3. ‘We Are All Too Human,’ Says Nietzsche
        4. Rise of the Superman
        5. We Must Define Ourselves
        6. Condemned To Be Free
        7. Indifference and Meaninglessness
        8. 10 Things Existentialists Teach Outsiders
    8. Part Two: The Rebel with a Cause
      1. Chapter 5: Finding Meaning
        1. Fearing Failure within Conformity
        2. The Danger of Downward Mobility
        3. The Personal Notion of Suffering
        4. Finding Our Unique Insight
        5. Believing We're Gifted for Something
        6. Setting the Compass
        7. Overly Critical Parents, Siblings and Teachers
        8. 10 Signposts Towards Finding Meaning
      2. Chapter 6: The Pursuit of Excellence
        1. That One Thing
        2. Required: A Growth Mindset
        3. Aristotle's Pursuit of the ‘Good Life’
        4. Excellence within A Community
        5. What Should We do with Our Lives?
        6. The Key Need: Be Incremental
        7. From Little Acorns
      3. Chapter 7: The Entrepreneurial Spirit
        1. What Is An Entrepreneur?
        2. A Selfish Enterprise
        3. What Entrepreneurs Are Not
        4. Excellence Doesn't Mean Expertise
        5. Not So Youthful
        6. Timing Matters? Probably Not
        7. Positives to Entrepreneurship
        8. Distilling the Spirit
    9. Part Three: Edge Ahead
      1. Chapter 8: Developing Our Creativity
        1. An Outsider Looking Out
        2. The creative edge
        3. Being Open to Uncertainty
        4. The Art of Thought
        5. A Technique for Producing Ideas
        6. Drowning Creativity: Our Education System
        7. A Hopeful Message for Outsiders
        8. Make Your Creativity Profitable
      2. Chapter 9: Learning to Pitch
        1. Life's A Pitch
        2. The Principles of Pitching
      3. Chapter 10: Getting Strategic
        1. The False Breakthrough
        2. What Is A Strategy?
        3. Good Strategy
        4. The War Analogy
        5. Developing The Right Strategy
        6. Desperate Self-Defeating Behaviour
        7. Helping You ‘Think Different’
      4. Chapter 11: Using Judgement
        1. The Emotional Handicap
        2. Making Better Judgements
        3. The Relevance of De Bono
        4. Decision-Making Mistakes
        5. Depersonalization – A Key Aspect of Judgement
    10. Part Four: The Wrong Voices
      1. Chapter 12: Avoiding Negativity
        1. Self-Deprecation as a Defence
        2. Countering Negativity Using CBT
        3. Two Outsiders Clash
        4. Maslow and Motivation
        5. The Positivity of Negativity
        6. Could Stoicism be the Answer?
        7. A Riposte to Gladwell
        8. A 10-Point Plan for Adopting Stoicism
      2. Chapter 13: The Danger of Extremism
        1. Radicalism and the Outsider
        2. Terrorism's Infantile and Narcissistic Roots
        3. A Seductive Proposition
        4. Blind to Realities
        5. An Enabling Romanticism
        6. Dealing with Prejudice
      3. Chapter 14: Utilizing (Constructive) Sociopathy
        1. An Exercise in Sociopathy
        2. Sociopathic Roots
        3. Constructive Sociopathy
        4. Hare's Psychopath Checklist
        5. The Psychopath's Advantage?
        6. Thatcher: the Psychopath?
        7. Generating Enmity – the Psychopath's Fate
        8. The Power of Synergizing
    11. Conclusion: An Extraordinary Vantage Point
    12. 10 Rules For Outsiders to Obey
    13. Bibliography
    14. About Robert Kelsey
    15. Index
    16. End User License Agreement