* As I am using the term, unhealthy compromise can refer to any of three typical conflict strategies—compromise, accommodate, or avoid—as described in the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict MODE Instrument (www.kilmann.com/conflict.html).

* For simplicity’s sake, I will speak from here on as if redefining the game and engaging at a higher level are synonymous; the reader should recognize that technically it is possible to redefine the game at a lower level, though this is simply a shortcut into the compromise trap. Conversely, playing along with the game generally means compromising on higher values, so I will refer to playing along with the game and engaging at a lower level as roughly synonymous. Again, technically you could play along with the game and ...

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