Butterflies Are Free
Just about every how-to-interview book you’ll come across admits that fear and nervousness are part of the picture, but, usually, the upshot of the discussion is, in effect, you’ll just have to live with the feelings: “Everybody feels nervous. You’re not alone.”
True enough, but not much help when your heart is pounding, your mouth is as dry as old cotton, and you feel like you’re going to puke.
Let’s not gloss over the sensations of fear. You probably remember reading about the “fight-or-flight” response in a high school health or biology class—how, faced with a threat to survival, the organism gears up for combat or escape: the heartbeat accelerates, the digestive system shuts down, the muscles tense up, the senses become ...