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The Bigs: The Secrets Nobody Tells Students and Young Professionals About How to Find a Great Job, Do a Great Job, Be a Leader, Start a Business, Stay Out of Trouble, and Live A Happy Life

Book Description

What is The Bigs? In baseball, "the bigs" is slang for the big leagues. When you become responsible for yourself, and you are being paid to do a job, you are in the big leagues. The real world is tough, competitive, and much is expected.

This is a quintessentially American story of one man's journey through his career and life. Wall Street veteran Ben Carpenter chronicles the people he met, the experiences he had, the mistakes he made, and what he learned along the way. Readers will encounter a colorful cast of real-life characters which include Big Hank, Hoops, Sweater Girl, The Zombies, Mr. Nuts, The Cheese, Deep Throat, and The RAT. Their tales illuminate Carpenter's progress from newly minted liberal arts graduate, to the owner of an out-of-control bar in Manhattan, to the CEO of a major international investment company.

While the real world can be very fun, it's also very much a battle, and that battle is not easy for anyone. The Bigs is an eye-opening book with specific, comprehensive, and practical advice you won't hear anywhere else. This is a book that parents will want to read and give to their children—and their children will want to read and share with their friends.

Table of Contents

  1. Cover
  2. Title Page
  3. Copyright
  4. Dedication
  5. Preface
    1. HOW <i xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" xmlns:epub="http://www.idpf.org/2007/ops" xmlns:m="http://www.w3.org/1998/Math/MathML" xmlns:svg="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:ibooks="http://vocabulary.itunes.apple.com/rdf/ibooks/vocabulary-extensions-1.0">THE BIGS</i> CAME TO BE CAME TO BE
  6. Introduction
    1. JUNIOR HIGH SCHOOL
    2. THE NEW KID
    3. HIGH SCHOOL
    4. GOING AWAY
    5. MY PARENTS
    6. BENJER
  7. Part One: How to Survive, Thrive, and Have Fun in the Big Leagues
    1. Chapter 1: Managing a Corporate Career
      1. FIRST AT BAT
      2. FIRST JOB SEARCH
      3. FIRST JOB
      4. SOMETHING BETTER OUT THERE
      5. ONLY YOU CAN LOOK OUT FOR YOURSELF
      6. WHAT I DID RIGHT—WHAT I DID WRONG
      7. TED
      8. MORE CURVEBALLS
      9. LEARNING FROM A SLUMP
      10. BACK ON TRACK
      11. KEEP YOUR EYES ON THE PRIZE
      12. OUT ON A LIMB
      13. CUT THROAT AND DEEP THROAT
      14. GOING TO WAR
      15. LOOKING BACK
      16. GOING FORWARD
      17. FINAL THOUGHTS
    2. Chapter 2: Being an Entrepreneur
      1. TUMBLE INN
      2. ALL COTTON
      3. GOLFONE
      4. THE STAND
      5. RISKS AND REWARDS OF ENTREPRENEURSHIP
      6. FINAL THOUGHTS
    3. Chapter 3: Being a Leader
      1. WHEN TO BE A LEADER
      2. LEAD BY EXAMPLE
      3. BE A LEADER, NOT A MANAGER
      4. DON'T BE CYNICAL
      5. A ROOM FULL OF FOG
      6. EVERYONE IS IMPORTANT
      7. KNOWING WHAT TO SAY WHEN
      8. DEMAND RESPECT
      9. MAKE THE WHOLE GREATER
      10. THE GUIDING PRINCIPLE
      11. LEADERSHIP, FRIENDSHIP, AND ADVERSITY
      12. THE LEAST FUN PART OF THE JOB
      13. TOO MUCH CREDIT—TOO MUCH BLAME
    4. Chapter 4: Staying Out of Trouble
      1. RAT BITE
      2. GET SOME GODDAMN SLEEP!
      3. FRONT PAGE NEWS
      4. THE GOOD, THE BAD, AND THE UGLY
      5. BREAKING THE GOLDEN RULE
      6. IF YOU'RE LUCKY ENOUGH TO GET RICH ONCE
      7. DON'T PICK FIGHTS YOU CAN'T WIN
      8. NEVER BE LIKE NEVER
    5. Chapter 5: Living a Happy Life
      1. THE SECRET
      2. CREATING A HAPPY LIFE
      3. MONEY AND HAPPINESS
      4. LEAVE YOUR BAGGAGE AT HOME
      5. A FINAL THOUGHT ON HAPPINESS
  8. Part Two: How to Choose, Get, and Do a Great Job
    1. Introduction
    2. Chapter 6: Introduction: Your Big League Career
      1. How to Choose Your Career
      2. FOCUS ON WHAT YOU DO WELL
      3. SHOULD YOU FOLLOW YOUR PASSION
      4. CONSIDER YOUR LIFESTYLE
      5. JOB SATISFACTION AND COMPENSATION
      6. WALL STREET, THEN AND NOW
    3. Chapter 7: How to Get a Great Job
      1. YOU'VE GOT TO BE KIDDING
      2. A GUIDE TO THIS CHAPTER
      3. Informational and Job Interviews: Scoring Goals
      4. How to Get Informational Interviews #1 <i xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" xmlns:epub="http://www.idpf.org/2007/ops" xmlns:m="http://www.w3.org/1998/Math/MathML" xmlns:svg="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:ibooks="http://vocabulary.itunes.apple.com/rdf/ibooks/vocabulary-extensions-1.0">Developing Your Network</i>
      5. How to Get Informational Interviews #2 <i xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" xmlns:epub="http://www.idpf.org/2007/ops" xmlns:m="http://www.w3.org/1998/Math/MathML" xmlns:svg="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:ibooks="http://vocabulary.itunes.apple.com/rdf/ibooks/vocabulary-extensions-1.0">Using Your Network</i>
      6. How to Get Informational Interviews #3 <i xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" xmlns:epub="http://www.idpf.org/2007/ops" xmlns:m="http://www.w3.org/1998/Math/MathML" xmlns:svg="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:ibooks="http://vocabulary.itunes.apple.com/rdf/ibooks/vocabulary-extensions-1.0">Asking for Help</i>
      7. How to Get Job Interviews #1 <i xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" xmlns:epub="http://www.idpf.org/2007/ops" xmlns:m="http://www.w3.org/1998/Math/MathML" xmlns:svg="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:ibooks="http://vocabulary.itunes.apple.com/rdf/ibooks/vocabulary-extensions-1.0">Asking for the Order</i>
      8. How to Get Job Interviews #2 <i xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" xmlns:epub="http://www.idpf.org/2007/ops" xmlns:m="http://www.w3.org/1998/Math/MathML" xmlns:svg="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:ibooks="http://vocabulary.itunes.apple.com/rdf/ibooks/vocabulary-extensions-1.0">Employment Websites and Social Networking</i>
      9. How to Get Job Interviews #3 <i xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" xmlns:epub="http://www.idpf.org/2007/ops" xmlns:m="http://www.w3.org/1998/Math/MathML" xmlns:svg="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:ibooks="http://vocabulary.itunes.apple.com/rdf/ibooks/vocabulary-extensions-1.0">You Need to Be Creative and Bold</i>
      10. How to Get Job Interviews #4 <i xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" xmlns:epub="http://www.idpf.org/2007/ops" xmlns:m="http://www.w3.org/1998/Math/MathML" xmlns:svg="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:ibooks="http://vocabulary.itunes.apple.com/rdf/ibooks/vocabulary-extensions-1.0">Staying in Touch</i>
      11. What to Say During Interviews #1 <i xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" xmlns:epub="http://www.idpf.org/2007/ops" xmlns:m="http://www.w3.org/1998/Math/MathML" xmlns:svg="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:ibooks="http://vocabulary.itunes.apple.com/rdf/ibooks/vocabulary-extensions-1.0">It's Not About You</i>
      12. What to Say During Interviews #2 <i xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" xmlns:epub="http://www.idpf.org/2007/ops" xmlns:m="http://www.w3.org/1998/Math/MathML" xmlns:svg="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:ibooks="http://vocabulary.itunes.apple.com/rdf/ibooks/vocabulary-extensions-1.0">Informational and Job Interviews Are Different</i>
      13. What to Say During Interviews #3 <i xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" xmlns:epub="http://www.idpf.org/2007/ops" xmlns:m="http://www.w3.org/1998/Math/MathML" xmlns:svg="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:ibooks="http://vocabulary.itunes.apple.com/rdf/ibooks/vocabulary-extensions-1.0">How to Prepare</i>
      14. What to Say During Interviews #4 <i xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" xmlns:epub="http://www.idpf.org/2007/ops" xmlns:m="http://www.w3.org/1998/Math/MathML" xmlns:svg="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:ibooks="http://vocabulary.itunes.apple.com/rdf/ibooks/vocabulary-extensions-1.0">How to Sell Yourself&#8212;Punchy Vignettes</i>
      15. What to Say During Interviews #5 <i xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" xmlns:epub="http://www.idpf.org/2007/ops" xmlns:m="http://www.w3.org/1998/Math/MathML" xmlns:svg="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:ibooks="http://vocabulary.itunes.apple.com/rdf/ibooks/vocabulary-extensions-1.0">Talking to Your Resume</i>
      16. What to Say During Interviews #6 <i xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" xmlns:epub="http://www.idpf.org/2007/ops" xmlns:m="http://www.w3.org/1998/Math/MathML" xmlns:svg="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:ibooks="http://vocabulary.itunes.apple.com/rdf/ibooks/vocabulary-extensions-1.0">How to Be General and Specific</i>
      17. What to Say During Interviews #7 <i xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" xmlns:epub="http://www.idpf.org/2007/ops" xmlns:m="http://www.w3.org/1998/Math/MathML" xmlns:svg="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:ibooks="http://vocabulary.itunes.apple.com/rdf/ibooks/vocabulary-extensions-1.0">Understanding the Game Around You</i>
      18. What to Say During Interviews #8 <i xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" xmlns:epub="http://www.idpf.org/2007/ops" xmlns:m="http://www.w3.org/1998/Math/MathML" xmlns:svg="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:ibooks="http://vocabulary.itunes.apple.com/rdf/ibooks/vocabulary-extensions-1.0">What Not to Say</i>
      19. What to Say During Interviews #9 <i xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" xmlns:epub="http://www.idpf.org/2007/ops" xmlns:m="http://www.w3.org/1998/Math/MathML" xmlns:svg="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:ibooks="http://vocabulary.itunes.apple.com/rdf/ibooks/vocabulary-extensions-1.0">Questions to Ask</i>
      20. What to Say During Interviews #10 <i xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" xmlns:epub="http://www.idpf.org/2007/ops" xmlns:m="http://www.w3.org/1998/Math/MathML" xmlns:svg="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:ibooks="http://vocabulary.itunes.apple.com/rdf/ibooks/vocabulary-extensions-1.0">Questions You May Be Asked</i>
      21. BE MORE AGGRESSIVE
      22. READ YOUR INTERVIEWER
      23. ALL ABOUT INTERNSHIPS
      24. HOW TO USE HEADHUNTERS
      25. TO B OR NOT TO B
      26. Math, a Good College, and a High GPA
      27. LIFE AIN'T FAIR
      28. THANK YOU NOTES
      29. YOUR STEP-BY-STEP GUIDE TO GETTING A GREAT JOB
    4. Chapter 8: How to Do a Great Job
      1. BEN'S ADVICE FOR AVERY
      2. LORI'S ADVICE FOR AVERY
    5. Chapter 9: How to Manage Your Finances
      1. KEEP YOUR PERSONAL EXPENSES LOW
      2. KEEP IT SIMPLE, STUPID
      3. INVESTING AND YOU
      4. FILE THIS ONE AWAY FOR THE FUTURE
      5. HELPING FAMILY AND FRIENDS FINANCIALLY
      6. A TIME AND A PLACE FOR EVERYTHING
      7. YOUR STEP-BY-STEP FINANCIAL PLAN
    6. Chapter 10: One Last Story
  9. Letter from the Author
  10. Acknowledgments
    1. To My Mother and Father
    2. My Girls
    3. My Sisters and Brother
    4. My Executive Assistants
    5. My Friends
    6. My Bosses, Partners, and Doctors
    7. My Wife, Leigh
      1. Index
  11. End User License Agreement