Chapter 18
Ten Things an Introvert Doesnât Want to Hear
In This Chapter
Knowing why some comments alarm innies
Coming up with helpful alternatives
If youâre an extrovert who hangs out with introverts, you probably try very hard to be innie-friendly. But sometimes itâs tricky, because the most innocent things you say can sometimes make them frown or even look at you in terror.
To offer some insight into the innie mindset, hereâs a list of nice or seemingly harmless things that extroverted people often say to innies â along with the reasons they can backfire. In addition, I offer some alternatives that will keep your introvert smiling.
âWe were just in the neighborhood and thought weâd drop in.â
Extroverts usually donât mind unexpected company. But introverts do!
Innies see their homes as safe havens where they can escape from people and recharge their batteries alone or with their families. That doesnât mean that they hate guests. However, they want to be forewarned if visitors are coming. And innies donât like sudden changes in plans. If you ambush them when theyâre looking forward to a cozy dinner or a quiet evening reading a book, theyâll put on a brave face â but underneath, theyâll be miserable.
So if a quick look of horror passes over the face ...
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