“An eerie silence fell over the room. Strangely out of context, a cricket chirped. We moved on, but none of us were ever the same again.”
In 1830, Sir Walter Scott wrote to a friend, “All men who have turned out worth anything have had the chief hand in their own education.” This applies particularly to fatherhood. My gut feeling is that most guys are like I was in my “pre-dad life”; that is, despite some whimsical notions about wanting to be “a good dad,” they don’t actually know what this means. They don’t have the faintest idea about pregnancy, labor or caring for a baby.
If you want to be a good dad – nay, an excellent dad – then you have to be active and involved. You can’t simply tag along, watching from the ...