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Real Confidence

Book Description

Psychologies provides their inspirational yet rigorous approach to the perennial topic of confidence

How confident are you? If you feel like your confidence could do with a bit of a boost to help make personal and professional situations easier Real Confidence will help you take on the confidence robbers, keep track of your confidence daily and incorporate confidence-building habits into your life on a regular basis.

Written in association with Psychologies Magazine, the leading magazine for intelligent people, covering work, personal development and lifestyle issues Real Confidence is:

  • Packed full of tips, techniques and advice to help you build your confidence
  • Based on scientific evidence and cutting edge global research
  • Rigorous with credible content presented in a light and accessible manner
  • Inspirational yet down to earth and practical

Table of Contents

  1. FOREWORD
  2. INTRODUCTION
    1. HOW TO USE THIS BOOK
    2. OUR EXPERTS
  3. 1: HOW CONFIDENT ARE YOU?
    1. CHAPTER 1 DEFINING CONFIDENCE – IS IT WHAT YOU THINK IT IS?
      1. FINDING A PERSONAL DEFINITION
      2. CONFIDENCE MEANS HAVING A GO
      3. EVERYONE HAS THE ‘IT’ FACTOR
      4. CONFIDENCE IS IN THE EYES OF THE BEHOLDER
      5. CONFIDENCE IS MULTI-DIMENSIONAL
      6. TAKE THE TEST
    2. CHAPTER 2 WHY DO YOU WANT CONFIDENCE – AND WHY DO YOU NEED IT?
      1. LOW CONFIDENCE IS A GREAT STARTING POINT
      2. IDENTIFY WHAT YOU WANT
      3. WORK ON YOURSELF
      4. IS IT LACK OR LOSS OF CONFIDENCE?
      5. TAKE THE TEST
    3. CHAPTER 3 HOW DOES REAL CONFIDENCE FEEL? BEING COMFORTABLE IN YOUR OWN SKIN
      1. COMING FROM THE HEART
      2. KNOWING YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING
      3. RELAXED, CALM AND A LITTLE EXCITED
      4. TAKE THE TEST
  4. 2: WHY DO YOU LACK CONFIDENCE?
    1. CHAPTER 4 WHERE DOES YOUR LACK OF CONFIDENCE COME FROM?
      1. IS CONFIDENCE IN YOUR GENES OR YOUR ENVIRONMENT?
      2. YOUR HORMONES AND CONFIDENCE
      3. TAKE THE TEST
    2. CHAPTER 5 WHAT CAN YOU DO WHEN YOUR LACK OF CONFIDENCE IS PARALYSING?
      1. BREAKING THE MYTH ABOUT SHYNESS
      2. PUT YOUR WEAKNESSES ASIDE
      3. PREPARATION CANCELS OUT LOW CONFIDENCE
      4. FROM PUBLIC SPEAKING TO FEAR OF DRIVING
      5. WHY PROFESSIONAL HELP HELPS
      6. KEEP GOING
      7. TAKE THE TEST
    3. CHAPTER 6 CONFIDENCE ROBBERS
      1. 1. CONFIDENCE AS A GOAL
      2. 2. CONSTANT NEGATIVE THINKING
      3. 3. NEGATIVE PEOPLE
      4. 4. PEOPLE WHO INSTRUCT YOU TO BE CONFIDENT
      5. 5. POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS
      6. 6. THE GLAZED FAKE SMILE
      7. 7. ACTING CONFIDENT
      8. 8. OVER-ANALYSING THE PAST
      9. 9. COMPARING AND DESPAIRING
      10. 10. AN EASY LIFE
      11. 11. EXHAUSTION
      12. 12. DRINKING ALCOHOL TO DE-STRESS
      13. 13. MODERN CITY LIFE
      14. 14. DIFFICULT PEOPLE
      15. 15. STAYING STUCK
  5. 3: HOW CAN YOU LEARN TO BE CONFIDENT?
    1. CHAPTER 7 IS CONFIDENCE A SKILL YOU CAN LEARN?
      1. LOW CONFIDENCE IS A GREAT STARTING POINT
      2. CONFIDENCE CAN BE DEVELOPED IN A PRACTICAL WAY
      3. MOTIVATION IS THE GLUE BETWEEN CONFIDENCE AND YOU
      4. ACTION CHANGES YOUR BRAIN CHEMISTRY
    2. CHAPTER 8 WHAT TYPE OF CONFIDENCE DO YOU ASPIRE TO?
      1. CONFIDENCE AROUND THE WORLD
      2. NICE, OR ULTIMATE, CONFIDENCE?
      3. IS OVER-CONFIDENCE REWARDED?
      4. NARCISSISM ISN’T CONFIDENCE
    3. CHAPTER 9 CONFIDENCE-BUILDING HABITS
      1. 1. ASSESS YOURSELF
      2. 2. KEEP LEARNING
      3. 3. DEVELOP YOUR WILLPOWER
      4. 4. TALK ABOUT YOUR POSITIVE EXPERIENCES
      5. 5. TONE DOWN YOUR WORST THOUGHTS
      6. 6. DITCH THINKING FOR DOING
      7. 7. ADOPT GOOD POSTURE
      8. 8. EAT A WELL-BALANCED DIET
      9. 9. EXERCISE
      10. 10. FIVE MINUTE MORNING WIGGLE
      11. 11. BREATHE, BREATHE, BREATHE
      12. 12. TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF
      13. 13. TURN YOUR HOME INTO YOUR HAVEN
      14. 14. SUPPORT DON’T COMPETE
      15. 15. BE WITH CONFIDENT PEOPLE
    4. CHAPTER 10 KEEPING TRACK OF YOUR CONFIDENCE EVERY DAY
      1. DAILY LIFE
      2. FAMILY LIFE
      3. WORK LIFE
      4. SOCIAL LIFE AND DATING
      5. BODY-IMAGE LIFE
  6. WHAT NEXT?
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  8. REFERENCES
  9. EULA