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Passed and Present: Keeping Memories of Loved Ones Alive

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Passed and Present is a one-of-a-kind guide for discovering creative and meaningful ways to keep the memory of loved ones alive. Inspiring and imaginative, this bona fide "how-to” manual teaches us how to remember those we miss most, no matter how long they've been gone. Passed and Present is not about sadness and grieving-it is about happiness and remembering. It is possible to look forward, to live a rich and joyful life, while keeping the memory of loved ones alive. This much-needed, easy-to-use roadmap shares 85 imaginative ways to celebrate and honor family and friends we never want to forget. Chapter topics include: Repurpose With Purpose: Ideas for transforming objects and heirlooms. Discover ways to reimagine photographs, jewelry, clothing, letters, recipes -virtually any inherited item or memento. Use Technology: Strategies for your daily, digital life. Opportunities for using computers, scanners, printers, apps, mobile devices, and websites. Not Just Holidays: Tips for remembrance any time of year, day or night, whenever you feel that pull - be it a loved one's birthday, an anniversary, or just a moment when a memory catches you by surprise. Monthly Guide: Christmas, Thanksgiving, Mother's Day, Father's Day, and other special times of year present unique challenges and opportunities. This chapter provides exciting ideas for making the most of them while keeping your loved one's memory alive. Places to Go: Destinations around the world where reflecting and honoring loved ones is a communal activity. This concept is called Commemorative Travel. Also included are suggestions for incorporating aspects of these foreign traditions into your practices at home. Being proactive about remembering loved ones has a powerful and unexpected benefit: it can make you happier. The more we incorporate memories into our year-round lives -as opposed to sectioning them off to a particular time of year-the more we can embrace the people who have passed, and all that's good and fulfilling in our present. With beautiful illustrations throughout by artist Jennifer Orkin Lewis, Passed and Present includes an introduction by Hope Edelman, bestselling author of Motherless Daughters.

Table of Contents

  1. Cover
  2. Title Page
  3. Dedication
  4. Copyright
  5. Contents
  6. Foreword
  7. Note from the Illustrator
  8. Introduction
  9. 1. Repurpose with Purpose
    1. 1. Preserve Memories in Perpetuity
    2. 2. A Different Kind of Scrapbook
    3. 3. Fashion Unexpected Jewelry
    4. 4. Assemble a Touchable Magic Box
    5. 5. Cultivate a Shrine
    6. 6. Buy Shadow Boxes
    7. 7. Shine a Light on Collectibles
    8. 8. Turn Leaves and Seeds into Art
    9. 9. Display Postcards and Letters
    10. 10. Give Fabrics New Life
    11. 11. Tell Stories One Stitch at a Time
    12. 12. Approach Textiles Simply
    13. 13. Make Sculptures From Reclaimed Materials
    14. 14. Curate a Gallery
    15. 15. Commission a Memory-Keeper
    16. 16. Manipulate Film Reels
    17. 17. Reimagine 35mm Slides
    18. 18. Make a Frame
    19. 19. Create a Memory Magnet
    20. 20. Destroy Your Dishes
    21. 21. Share Objects Broadly
    22. 22. Repurpose Books
    23. 23. Reconsider Your Reflection
  10. 2. Use Technology
    1. 24. Get the White Glove Treatment
    2. 25. Show & Tales
    3. 26. Recall and Preserve Their Voice
    4. 27. Invite Comments
    5. 28. Generate a Digital Wave of Light
    6. 29. Leave a Random Note of Kindness
    7. 30. Crowdsource Family History
    8. 31. Digitize Family Recipes and Make Them an Indelible Part of Your Life
    9. 32. Transform Their Handwriting
    10. 33. Be Creative with Video
    11. 34. Send a Meeting Maker
    12. 35. Embrace Throwback Thursday
    13. 36. Hang On to Meaningful Posts and Emails
    14. 37. Find Official Documents
    15. 38. Hire a Personal Historian
    16. 39. Fabricate History
    17. 40. Record a Digital Walking Tour
    18. 41. Craft Their Image Into Art
    19. 42. Make a Game of It
  11. 3. Not Just Holidays
    1. 43. Host a Memory Bash
    2. 44. Start a Remembrance Chain
    3. 45. Build a Refuge
    4. 46. Grow Daffodils
    5. 47. Choose the Right Words and Say Them Again and Again
    6. 48. Cook Grilled Cheese and Spaghetti
    7. 49. Work with a Medium
    8. 50. Write it Down
    9. 51. Stencil a Favorite Saying
    10. 52. Get Inked
    11. 53. Retrace Your Steps
    12. 54. Keep Doing It
    13. 55. Perpetuate Their Passions
    14. 56. Listen to Music
    15. 57. Expand Your Circle
    16. 58. Give Objects Away
    17. 59. Donate to a Museum
    18. 60. Establish a New Spring Ritual
    19. 61. Call Attention to Their Absence
    20. 62. Celebrate the Hardest Days
    21. 63. Foster Serendipity
    22. 64. Give Memories 100 Percent
  12. 4. Monthly Guide
    1. 65. January: Resolve to Act
    2. 66. February: Share Your Love Story. Tell Theirs.
    3. 67. March: Grow a Memory Garden
    4. 68. April: Fortify the Earth
    5. 69. May: Mother Yourself
    6. 70. June: Celebrate Dad
    7. 71. July: Celebrate Their Legacy
    8. 72. August: Plan a Connection Vacation
    9. 73. September: Recognize Every Grandparent
    10. 74. October: Use Meaningful Halloween Decorations
    11. 75. November: Honor Their Service
    12. 76. November: Cook Together
    13. 77. December: Deck the Halls with . . . Spools of Thread
    14. 78. December: Go Christmas Shopping
  13. 5. Monthly Guide
    1. 79. Japan
    2. 80. China
    3. 81. Mexico
    4. 82. Thailand
    5. 83. Israel
    6. 84. The Bahamas
    7. 85. Spain
  14. A Final Word of Encouragement
  15. Resources to Request
  16. Opportunities to Connect
  17. Selected Sources
  18. Acknowledgments
  19. About the Author