Always remember, your focus determines your reality.
Here’s a story that comes from a book about family therapy.1
A couple were having problems with their teenage son. He was being defiant and belligerent. The parents tried to curtail his behavior, but the harder they came down on him, the more defiant he got. They were to the point where they were going to start calling the police, that’s how bad it was. It was a classic doom loop.
One of the things that was happening was that he would stay out late at night.
The therapist told them, “Here’s what I want you to do. I want you to tell him, ‘Look, we’d like ...