Kids, Wealth, and Consequences: Ensuring a Responsible Financial Future for the Next Generation

Appendix 4. Strengthening Your Family Glue

QUALITIES	EXERCISE	RESULTS
Shared values	Individually write down the top 3–10 values that are most important, each on a separate sheet of paper. Hang each sheet from each person on the wall. As a group arrange the values into categories. Have everyone vote on all of the value categories that everyone in the group shares. Eliminate the categories the family does not share. This list will be a starting ground for finding glue that will hold the family together.	List the common values on which you all agree:
Traditions that define our family	Have a playful discussion to uncover traditions that the family enjoys and wants to maintain. If the family cannot think of any, are they interested in trying to develop and adopt one or two traditions?	List current or new traditions:
Activities for maintenance of relationships	Have family members write down any day trips, outings, or activities they have found fun and meaningful in the past. Compare lists and vote on annual, quarterly, or monthly activities you can enjoy together.	List planned activities:
Willingness to learn and grow	Have each person write down any skills-athletic, artistic, musical, business, financial, language, or spiritual-they would like to acquire or improve. Compare everyone's lists and develop affinity groups of those who share a desire to learn a particular skill; then find courses or workshops you can attend together.	List who will take each course and workshop together: