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How to Succeed with People: Remarkably easy ways to engage, influence and motivate almost anyone

Book Description

Learn to be a people person with international bestselling author Paul McGee!

Let's face it, if you want any sort of success in life you're going to have to deal with other people at some point. All success requires input from other people - even if you've invented something in your bedroom, eventually, you're going to need to interact with people to take it to the next level. And even if you don't desperately hanker after success, you surely want to be liked, have friends, get on well with people? Learning how to better communicate and interact with others can really help to improve your life - from ensuring you enjoy parties more to turning you into a roaring success magnet. So whether you dread social events with a passion and spend evenings cringing in a corner, or just want to have better relationships at work and in life, then How to Succeed With People, written in Paul's characteristic down to earth, approachable style, can help you become a people magnet.

Learn how to:-

  • Hold people's attention when you talk

  • Listen and react properly to what others are saying or doing

  • Better confront, complain and deal with difficult conversations

  • Give compliments and praise

  • Deal with interviews, networking events, difficult conversations and more

  • And much more

Table of Contents

  1. Cover
  2. Title page
  3. Copyright page
  4. Dedication
  5. What’s the big deal about this people stuff?
  6. Let’s set the scene
  7. Section One: Stop, Understand
    1. People can’t be fixed
    2. Most people suffer from S.A.D.S.
    3. Some people are lightbulbs
    4. Why intelligent people do stupid things
    5. You get what you tolerate
    6. Humiliation is for amateurs
    7. Being nice won’t always work
    8. It takes two to tango
    9. No investment, no return
  8. Section Two: Move On
    1. Have realistic expectations
    2. Let sleeping dogs lie . . . sometimes
    3. Check out your attitude
    4. Be willing to be wrong
    5. Don’t treat people as you want to be treated
    6. Four killer questions you have to ask yourself
      1. 1. What’s going on in their world at the moment?
      2. 2. What’s important to them at this time?
      3. 3. Am I listening to understand or listening to defend?
      4. 4. Have I clearly communicated my perspective?
    7. How to make criticism count . . . not crucify
    8. Work out why they’re whinging
      1. 1. Some people are miserable by nature
      2. 2. A lack of self-confidence
      3. 3. A perceived sense of injustice
    9. How to make people feel S.P.E.C.I.A.L. (Part 1)
      1. 1. Serve
      2. 2. Personalized
      3. 3. Encourage
    10. How to make people feel S.P.E.C.I.A.L. (Part 2)
      1. 4. Courtesy
      2. 5. Interest
      3. 6. Appreciation
      4. 7. Listen
    11. How to pick people up when they’re feeling down
      1. 1. It’s OK to not feel OK
      2. 2. Reframe failure
      3. 3. Look for the positives
      4. 4. Go for quick wins
      5. 5. Change location
    12. How to talk so people listen
      1. 1. Drowning people in detail
      2. 2. Failing to make your message relevant to your audience
      3. 3. Focusing on facts and forgetting the feelings
  9. The ball’s in your court
    1. How to succeed with people
  10. About Paul McGee
  11. More stuff to help
  12. Index