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Having It All... and Making It Work: Six Steps for Putting Both Your Career and Your Family First

Book Description

Working 24x7? Delaying life until it's too late? You have the ability stop!

Having it All ... and Making it Work is a fast-paced, easy-to-use book offering you a new pathway towards managing personal life and professional life--without sacrificing either one of them. This book isn't just more whining and exhortation: it delivers specific, bite-sized, no-fluff solutions for managing your life, including crucial execution steps you can take immediately. Mills teaches you how to identify and balance what's most important to you--and give up what you don't want badly enough. He also shows how to make the balance real, not just talk; how to make career decisions that promote balance; and how to make course corrections that refine your balance over time. Mills also exposes the potentially disastrous myths and rationalizations many people use to avoid the realities of work/life imbalance--fallacies like "I'll devote all my time to work for 15 years, get rich, and then I'll pay attention to family."

Mills' breakthrough work/life courses at the Harvard Business School are helping business people find the balance they're searching for. The techniques he's developed will help anyone struggling to get a grasp on the work/life balance challenge.

Table of Contents

  1. Copyright
    1. Dedication
  2. Praise for Having It All ... and Making It Work:
  3. Introduction: Why Read this Book
    1. Who Are We?
      1. Quinn Mills
      2. Sasha Mattu
      3. Kirstin Hornby
  4. Acknowledgments
  5. 1. Commit to Wanting Both a Career and Family: Rethinking Your Priorities
    1. The Leadership Challenge
    2. Our Definition of Balance
    3. Critical Success Factors in Rethinking Your Priorities
  6. 2. Pursue a Process that Creates Balance: Balancing What Is Most Important to You
    1. Establish Boundaries Early On
    2. Know Your Priorities
    3. An Exercise in Perspective
    4. Define Success on Your Own Terms
    5. Critical Success Factors in Balancing What Is Most Important to You
  7. 3. Make Choices and Accept the Consequences: Giving Up What You Don’t Want Badly Enough
    1. Just Let It Go
      1. First Tier or Second Tier?
    2. Know Your Limits
      1. Time
      2. Attention Span, Concentration, Focus, and Energy
    3. Minimize Tradeoffs
    4. Blind Tradeoffs
      1. The Risk of Either—Or Thinking
      2. Opposite Illusions
    5. Say No
    6. Don’t Feel Guilty
      1. Why It’s Hard to Say No
    7. Critical Success Factors in Giving Up What You Don’t Want Badly Enough
  8. 4. Choose a Career that Supports Balance: Making Your Balance Real
    1. Choose Your Career Path Wisely
      1. Job Match and Balancing Act
    2. Three Fundamental Options
      1. Six Ways to Create Space
      2. Step to the Side
      3. Are You Climbing a Career Ladder or Lattice?
      4. Opt Out
    3. Four Key Career Levers
    4. Critical Success Factors in Making Your Balance Real
  9. 5. Involve Your Loved Ones in Creating Balance: Refining Your Balance
    1. Four Strategies
      1. 1. Involve All Our Team Members When Creating Our Balance
      2. 2. Understand Family Concerns
      3. 3. Be Creative in the Way You Spend Time with Your Kids
      4. 4. Make Sure that Both Parents are Striving to be Balanced
    2. Divide and Conquer?
    3. Critical Success Factors in Refining Your Balance
  10. 6. Review Your Balance to Retain or Regain It: Balance Is a Destination
    1. This Journey Leads to a Destination
    2. What Knocks Us Off Balance
      1. The Knock-You-Down Things
      2. The Slippery Things
    3. Review Your Balance
    4. Learn to Be Flexible
      1. Flexibility—The Crucial Rule of this Game
      2. Don’t Miss Your Opportunity
    5. Your Back-to-Balance Plan
      1. Critical Success Factors to the Destination of Balance
  11. Six Steps to Career/Family Balance
    1. Step 1. Commit to Wanting Both a Career and Family: Rethinking Your Priorities
      1. Critical Success Factors
    2. Step 2. Pursue a Process that Creates Balance: Balancing What Is Most Important to You
      1. Critical Success Factors
    3. Step 3. Make Choices and Accept the Consequences: Giving Up What You Don’t Want Badly Enough
      1. Critical Success Factors
    4. Step 4. Choose a Career that Supports Balance: Making Your Balance Real
      1. Critical Success Factors
    5. Step 5. Involve Your Loved Ones in Creating Balance: Refining Your Balance
      1. Critical Success Factors
    6. Step 6. Review Your Balance to Retain or Regain It: Balance Is a Destination
      1. Critical Success Factors