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If you need to leave during the meal, say a soft “Excuse me” to those on either side of you, and then leave your napkin on your chair, not on the table. When you leave at the end of the meal, you can put your napkin, folded loosely, on the table to let the server know you are not returning.

Using Silverware in North America

Choose silverware from the outside first and work your way in toward the plate. Utensils placed horizontally across the top of your place setting are for coffee and dessert. Technically, you should have new silverware for each course. If the server insists you keep your silverware, place it on your bread plate, not back on the tablecloth, because it's inconsiderate to soil the tablecloth with your utensils. Don't point or gesture with your silverware. Never lick your knife. Cut one piece of food at a time: we are not children.

Although it is elegant to use the Continental eating style that would be appropriate and required in European culture, the North American eating style is acceptable while on this continent. Just choose which is most comfortable for you and do it gracefully.

North American Style

When cutting food, the fork should be held in your left hand and the knife in your right. To take a bite of food, lay your knife on the top-right edge of your plate and transfer your fork to your right hand. Bring the food to your mouth with fork tines facing upward.

Continental Style