Truly successful people are not “bothered” by people talking with them. They become “bothered” when someone does something that is bothersome, such as pointing out you are bothering them. Your existence is not bothersome. Saying please and thank you once are enough words when asking for input or a favor.

Step 6: Take Your Eyes Off Yourself

Be conscious of yourself, not self-conscious.

Deal with the Business of YOU. Accept or fix your confidence zappers so you can focus on other people and their needs. Take a genuine interest in others and adopt a “pay-it-forward” attitude. Always ask yourself, “What can I offer this person besides the product I sell? How can I make someone else's day better? What can I do to help others?” Good deeds have a way of boomeranging out of the blue.

When you take your eyes off yourself, you will be less likely to feel self-conscious. This will free you to embrace potential business relationship opportunities and friendships that are staring you in the face. The simple act of genuinely listening to a person can make the difference of whether or not a person feels valued when he or she is around you. When you make others feel valued, you will be happier as a result.

The most successful people are usually the most down to earth. We all put our pants on one leg at a time. It may be a cliché, but it's the truth. We all have feelings, fears, wants, and needs. Everyone wants to belong. That's part of life. When we put other people on pedestals, no wonder it's ...

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