You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.
Growing up with a father who had alcoholism and depression, Francis had a tough childhood. In addition to dramatic scenes, everyday life meant walking on eggshells, not knowing what mood his father would be in, what would set his father off, and whether his mother would be able to figure out how to keep the peace. Survival in Francis’s family meant not showing emotion. Not only was nobody there to comfort you if you were scared, but it could start problems. Francis learned as a young child that showing emotion made you vulnerable and made other people angry, so he trained himself to keep a low profile.