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Free Yourself From Fears With NLP: Overcoming Anxiety and Living Without Worry

Book Description

As never before, our lives are bombarded with daily events that stir fear - real or imagined - in both our individual and collective psyches.

Table of Contents

  1. Cover Page
  2. Title Page
  3. Copyright Page
  4. Contents
  5. Introduction
  6. Part I Our Experience of Fear
    1. The Nine Laws of Fear
    2. 1 What Is Fear?
      1. The two elements of fear
      2. The NLP approach to fear
      3. The physiology of fear
    3. 2 Fear—Friend or Foe?
      1. Positive intention
      2. Authentic fear
      3. Unreal fear
      4. Types of unreal fear
      5. Social reactions to fears
      6. How not to deal with fear
      7. Measure your fears
    4. 3 Learning and Unlearning Fear
      1. How we learn unreal fears
      2. Children’s fears
      3. Enjoyable fear
      4. Unlearning fear
    5. 4 The Language of Fear
      1. Talking yourself into fear
      2. Telling other people
      3. Affirmations
      4. Is fear compulsory?
      5. Our relationship with fear
      6. Metaphor
  7. Part II Unreal Fear—Fear as Foe
    1. 5 Fear in Time
      1. The circles test
      2. Unreal fear in the past
      3. Fears of the future
      4. Worry
    2. 6 Common Fears that Hold us Hostage
      1. Fear of flying
      2. Fear of authority
      3. Fear of success
      4. Fear of dentists and doctors
      5. Fear of heights
      6. Fear of elevators
      7. Fear of death
    3. 7 Unquiet Times and Turbulent Minds
      1. Dangerous places
      2. Personal safety
      3. Laws and safety
      4. Danger and the media
      5. Social anxiety and stress
    4. 8 Social Fears
      1. Change
      2. Time pressure
      3. Appearances
      4. Fear of the future
      5. Information
      6. Choice
    5. 9 The Pressure to Achieve: The Price of Perfectionism
      1. Self-sabotage
      2. Excuses
      3. Other people’s opinions
      4. Blame
      5. Beliefs
      6. Failure and feedback
      7. Fear of failure
      8. Performance anxiety
      9. Metaphors of failure
    6. 10 Dealing with Change: The Uncertain Future
      1. Changes with no choice
      2. The changes we choose
      3. External and internal change
      4. Tolerance of change
      5. Major changes
      6. Loss
      7. Habits
      8. Change and resources
      9. Rationalization and procrastination
      10. The fear cycle
      11. Transition
  8. Part III Authentic Fear—Fear as Friend
    1. The Nine Laws of Safety
    2. 11 Fear as a Sign to Take Action
      1. You need authentic fear
      2. The Darwin awards
    3. 12 How we Assess Safety and Risk
      1. How do you know you feel safe?
      2. Assume risk or assume safety?
      3. What do you need to feel safe?
      4. Risk
    4. 13 Acting on Fear: When to Heed the Warning
      1. Warning signals
      2. Denying fear
      3. Predicting violence
      4. Danger signals
      5. The attribution error
    5. 14 Trust and Intuition: Your Two Guides
      1. Level of trust
      2. Three types of trust
      3. Reference experiences
      4. Learning from experience
      5. Intuition
  9. Part IV Finding Freedom—Techniques to Overcome Your Fears
    1. 15 The Value Behind the Fear
      1. The value under the fear
      2. Self-esteem
      3. The value of respect
      4. Fear of looking stupid
      5. Fear of commitment
    2. 16 Dealing with Fear in the Body
      1. Controlling your feeling of fear
      2. Controlling fear through breathing
      3. Controlling fear through feeling
      4. Controlling fear through relaxation
    3. 17 Dealing with Fear in the Mind
      1. How does this work in practice?
      2. Types of resources
    4. 18 Freedom from Social Anxiety
      1. The Hydra of social fears
      2. Beheading the Hydra
      3. Life in the present moment
    5. 19 Emotional Freedom: Here and Now
      1. Opening doors
      2. Courage
  10. Appendix I: Thinking about Thinking with NLP
  11. Appendix II: Summary of Skills for Freedom
  12. References
  13. Bibliography
  14. About the author