PRINCIPLE 8

Get Used to Projections

We all go to the same different meeting together!

–JIM MASELKO, consultant and trainer

When you are leading a meeting, do you get agitated with people who say nothing? Or with those who won’t shut up? If someone expresses anger, do you become angry? Do you sometimes suspect that people are telling you what you want to hear? Or silently judging you on criteria never made explicit? Do you sometimes decide this group is “resistant,” another group “ready to work”? Have you ever found yourself disliking, mistrusting, or ignoring somebody before you knew anything about that person? Or found yourself liking a complete stranger at first sight?

In each of these scenarios, you are caught up in the experience of projection. ...

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