Appendix A
What Prevents Effective Dialogue?
Main Dialogue Blockers© V1.8
Name: _________________________________________________
Organization:___________________________________________
Date/Location:__________________________________________
Presence Problems
Identify in the following what prevents or diminishes your presence and how severe these causes are
| The main reasons preventing me from being 100 percent present when in dialogue with others include: | Top Blockers | Severity High Medium Low |
| 1 My cell phone keeps ringing. | ||
| 2 I have big problems to worry about. | ||
| 3 They interrupt me at the wrong time. | ||
| 4 I have trouble turning off. | ||
| 5 My e-mail keeps alerting me. | ||
| 6 Nonstop interruptions. | ||
| 7 Simultaneous crisis. | ||
| 8 I can’t relax. | ||
| 9 Stress takes a while to subside. | ||
| 10 One problem tips the scale and I’m lost in my thoughts again. | ||
| 11 I don’t practice presence. | ||
| 12 I never learned how to be present. | ||
| 13 People don’t look me in the eye. | ||
| 14 People don’t show they care. | ||
| 15 People are doing something else when I want to talk to them. | ||
| 16 The history between us overpowers the present moment. | ||
| 17 I don’t see any future in this relationship. | ||
| 18 I’d rather be doing something else. | ||
| 19 I’m waiting to start something else. | ||
| 20 I’m unable to respect, suspend, listen, talk for reasons previously listed. | ||
| 21 They are ... |
