SUMMARY—MASTER MY STORIES
If strong emotions are keeping you stuck in silence or violence, try this.
Retrace Your Path
Notice your behavior. If you find yourself moving away from dialogue, ask yourself what you’re really doing.
• Am I in some form of silence or violence?
Get in touch with your feelings. Learn to accurately identify the emotions behind your story.
• What emotions are encouraging me to act this way?
Analyze your stories. Question your conclusions and look for other possible explanations behind your story.
• What story is creating these emotions?
Get back to the facts. Abandon your absolute certainty by distinguishing between hard facts and your invented story.
• What evidence do I have to support this story?
Watch for clever stories ...
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