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Coaching with NLP For Dummies®

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How to become an NLP practitioner or supercharge your coaching skills with NLP

One of the most popular methods for helping people achieve their life aspirations Neuro-Linguistic Programmming, or NLP, holds the key to remaking one's future. NLP encourages users to re-create the thought patterns common to those who excel, a process that helps gradually weed out negative or habitual thinking. Using the key elements of NLP developing a coaching relationship, shedding light on patterns, managing emotional states, and shaping an agenda for change this practical, inspiring guide offers the tools for helping your clients upgrade the quality of their personal or professional lives.

  • Reveals ten powerful coaching questions, ten traps to avoid in coaching, and ten ways to enhance your coaching skills

  • Offers tips on laying the foundation for success and quick win sessions

  • Insights on how to tap into passion and purpose and making goals come alive

  • Methods for coaching yourself or your team and coaching through conflict

  • Other books by Burton: NLP For Dummies, NLP Workbook For Dummies, and Building Self-Confidence For Dummies

Ideal for those working towards becoming an NLP practitioner or master coach, Coaching with NLP For Dummies is a guidebook to life transformation for both client and practitioner.

Table of Contents

  1. Cover Page
  2. Title page
  3. Copyright
  4. About the Author
  5. Author's Acknowledgements
  6. Publishers Acknowledgements
  7. Contents at a Glance
  8. Table of Contents
  9. Introduction
    1. About This Book
    2. Conventions Used in This Book
    3. What You're Not to Read
    4. Foolish Assumptions
    5. How This Book Is Organised
    6. Icons Used in This Book
    7. Where to Go from Here
  10. Part I: Introducing NLP Coaching
    1. Chapter 1: Combining Coaching and NLP for Great Results
      1. Establishing the Differences between Coaching and NLP
      2. Pursuing a Coaching Career
      3. Starting with NLP
      4. Getting into the Dreaming Habit
    2. Chapter 2: Gathering the Essential NLP Skills
      1. Increasing Rapport
      2. Working with Some Key NLP Assumptions
      3. Getting Beneath the Surface
      4. Modelling Excellence
    3. Chapter 3: Developing Your Coaching Alliances
      1. Defining the Client-Coach Alliance
      2. Building Trusting Relationships
      3. Contracting Competently with Clients
      4. Thriving on Curiosity and Spaciousness
  11. Part II: Building Core Coaching Skills
    1. Chapter 4: Shaping the Agenda for Change
      1. Opening and Ending Sessions with Elegance
      2. Fine-Tuning the Intake Process
      3. Formulating the Desired Agenda
    2. Chapter 5: Going for Quick-Win Sessions
      1. Checking the SCORE
      2. Leveraging with Logical Levels
      3. Forwarding Awareness into Action
    3. Chapter 6: Getting Greater Clarity
      1. Tackling Blind Spots with Awareness
      2. Creating and Using Mental Maps
      3. Asking Powerful Questions
      4. Listening Intently
    4. Chapter 7: Making Goals Come Alive
      1. Checking that Goals Are Well-Formed
      2. Balancing Dreams with Reality: The Disney Strategy
      3. Generating New Behaviours
  12. Part III: Deepening Your Awareness
    1. Chapter 8: Tuning into Values
      1. Knowing What's Important
      2. Setting Priorities
      3. Keeping Values Alive Every Day
    2. Chapter 9: Tapping into Passion and Purpose
      1. Waking Up
      2. Getting in Tune with Flow States
      3. Finding the Meaning in Your Work
      4. Recognising Your Life Purpose
      5. Building a Shared Vision
    3. Chapter 10: Shedding Light on Patterns
      1. Seeing the Metaprograms
      2. Cutting through Collusion
      3. Establishing New Habits
    4. Chapter 11: Developing Better Strategies
      1. Discovering the Difference that Makes the Difference: Strategies
      2. Finding Examples in Others: Models and Mentors
      3. Creating New Structures to Be More Effective
  13. Part IV: Working Through Drama, Decisions and Dilemmas
    1. Chapter 12: Strengthening Relationships in Tough Times
      1. Identifying the Stakeholders Who Matter
      2. Understanding What Makes Others Tick
      3. Coaching Teams to Bond
    2. Chapter 13: Moving through Life's Disappointments
      1. Feeling Okay When Things Are Clearly Not Okay
      2. Avoiding the Drama Triangle
      3. Gaining Something from Tough Times
    3. Chapter 14: Coaching through Conflict
      1. Recognising Behaviours under Pressure
      2. Working through Differences
      3. Voicing What Needs to Be Said
    4. Chapter 15: Smoothing Career Peaks and Troughs
      1. Playing to Strengths
      2. Owning an Engaging Reputation
      3. Recognising the Power of Networks to Support Growth
  14. Part V: Advancing Your NLP Coaching Repertoire
    1. Chapter 16: Turning Time to Your Advantage
      1. Creating a Personal Time Line
      2. Becoming a Time Traveller
      3. Creating the Desired Future
    2. Chapter 17: Shifting Experiences with Submodalities
      1. Understanding the Submodalities
      2. Shifting Positions
      3. Changing Beliefs through the Senses
    3. Chapter 18: Managing Emotional States
      1. Saying Hello to Emotional States
      2. Changing Emotional States
      3. Tackling Interference from Gremlins
      4. Overcoming Fear
    4. Chapter 19: Connecting All Parts of a Person
      1. Splitting into Parts
      2. Keeping Everyone Supported during Change
      3. Developing a Unified Identity
      4. Reframing the Situation
  15. Part VI: The Part of Tens
    1. Chapter 20: Ten Powerful Coaching Questions
      1. What Do You Want?
      2. What's Important to You about This?
      3. How Will You Know When You've Got What You Want?
      4. What Is Getting in the Way for You?
      5. What Resources Have You Got that Can Support You?
      6. When You Accomplish Your Goal and Look Back on Your Success, What Will You Experience?
      7. What's the Question You Don't Want to Ask Yourself Right Now?
      8. What's the Way to Make This Really Easy?
      9. What's the First Step?
      10. And What Else?
    2. Chapter 21: Ten Traps to Avoid in Coaching
      1. Racing into Detail without Seeing the Bigger Picture
      2. Getting Caught with Long-Winded Tales
      3. Rescuing the Other Person
      4. Dramatising What You Hear
      5. Being the Know-all
      6. Slipping into Parent or Child Role
      7. Losing Track of Time
      8. Falling into Love and Friendship
      9. Engaging in Over-Enthusiastic Action-Planning
      10. Being Scared to Say Goodbye
    3. Chapter 22: Ten Ways to Enhance Your Coaching Skills
      1. Enrol in Diverse Courses and Workshops
      2. Share Your Knowledge with Others
      3. Practise on Willing Guinea Pigs
      4. Model Other Coaches in Action
      5. Experiment with New Ideas
      6. Record Yourself and Play It Back
      7. Set a Quality Target
      8. Work with a Supervisor or Mentor
      9. Join a Coaching Network
      10. Volunteer with a Professional Body
  16. Index