TIP 73

LISTEN PROFOUNDLY

       It is not the voice that commands the story: it is the ear.

ITALO CALVINO

       The opposite of talking isn’t listening. The opposite of talking is waiting.

FRAN LEBOWITZ

Now that you have stopped doing so much talking, you will have more time to listen. Most people like to think that they are good listeners. Very few people actually are. Think about the people you know. Of all your friends and family members, how many really listen to you? Listening is an art and, like any life skill, takes practice. No one ever taught us how to listen; we were taught to speak. Stop worrying so much about what you are going to say. What really attracts people is not what you say, but how well you listen.

Listening and keeping ...

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