TIP 5

ESTABLISH BIG BOUNDARIES

       The way in which a person loses their true goodness is just like the way that trees are destroyed by the ax. Cut down day after day, how can the mind, any more than the tree, retain its beauty or continue to live.

MENCIUS, FOURTH CENTURY, BC

It is almost impossible to be successful without firm and clear boundaries. We naturally respect people who have strong boundaries. Boundaries are simply the things people can’t do to you, lines that will protect you and allow you to be your best. For example, most people have in place the boundary that it is not okay for anyone to hit them. Now we know that some folks don’t even have this boundary in place—we’ve heard about or know people who stay in abusive relationships ...

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