1. Get Good at Evaluating Context
No matter who you are, what you want to achieve, or how you want to be as a person, your role in any given situation is determined in part by factors that have nothing to do with you. These are pre-existing, independent factors—factors that would be present even if you were not. These factors determine the context of any situation.
Context is “the big picture.” To understand context, just imagine extreme contexts such as jail, war, famine, earthquakes, and floods. In any of these contexts, the possibilities are limited and so the scope of your potential role is limited. Whole sets of expectations, hopes, communications, and actions are excluded from the realm of the appropriate.
While it is relatively easy ...