Choose your own values
Avoid using the words ‘should’, ‘must’ and ‘ought’. Substitute them with phrases like ‘I prefer to…’, ‘I choose to…’ and ‘I want to…’ (providing, of course, that this is actually the case!). This will help expose implicit rules that you may wish to reconsider and help you identify the values that you do want to uphold.
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