Chapter 2

Despite our knowing on an intellectual level that we need to be more assertive, it seems that every one of us has experiences of doing too much for people and then becoming angry or frustrated because of the consequences. So what is it that causes us to do this and how can we start to take charge of it all more effectively?

But I like to help out

It feels really good to do things for other people. It’s charitable and generous and friendly and supportive and all other things that can make life a much nicer place to be. And, if we’re honest, it is quite nice when people go above and beyond for us – it makes us feel loved and special.

For these ...

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