Break Your Own Rules: How to Change the Patterns of Thinking That Block Women's Paths to Power

The New Rule: It's Both-And

In our interview with Bonnie St. John, Olympic champion, motivational speaker, and author of Live Your Joy, she tells us about an “aha” moment: “For me, the epiphany was that it doesn't need to be a teeter-totter. I avoid the extreme ups and downs and guilt. Instead, it's what I call blending.” By “blending,” St. John means that she has created a life that brings work and family aspirations together in a fluid way. It allows for personal satisfaction and control. St. John looks for creative solutions to accomplishing her goals, but she's not doing every little thing herself—only the important things. She goes on to say, “With blending there is a possibility of having more of both. It isn't simple, it isn't trivial, ...