Lesson 2

Looking

‘When two people meet and make eye contact, they find themselves in an immediate state of conflict. They want to look at each other and at the same time they want to look away. The result is a complicated series of eye movements, back and forth.’

Desmond Morris

We’re going to concentrate on the face and eyes in this lesson because it forms the centre of our non-verbal communication. The face is second only to the eyes, in body language terms, in revealing information about us. But our facial expressions are, for the most part, under our control. It’s quite easy to change the face to reflect any emotion. If you want to look happy, even though you’re feeling gloomy, you can put on another ‘face’.

It’s harder to control our gestures ...

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